Life Group Discussion Guide
Sexual temptations are common for everyone. So, why don’t we talk about them with fellow believers?
Finally, then, brothers, we ask and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, just as you are doing, that you do so more and more. 2 For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. 8 Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.1 Thessalonians 4:1-8
We should be aware of one truth in living out the Christian faith in the twenty-first century: many of the pressures, temptations, and pitfalls are much the same in life today as they were for the Christians in the first century. In no subject is this more true than in the area of sexual purity.
Churches have traditionally treated sex as something of a topic of taboo, or at least an impolite subject. I believe this has been part of Satan’s scheme to trap Christians in sexual sin so that they can’t access one of the greatest resources in fighting sin: other believers!
If the Bible talks about sex, then we ought to talk about sex in the same way that the Bible does.
The Need for Honesty
We need to be honest and frank about sex so that we can actually pursue God’s will in how it is to be treated.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that everyone needs to tell everything there is to know about themselves. It should mean that people can walk away from a small group knowing that there are men or women in the church with whom they can be honest about their lives without being judged or gossiped about.
Even though it may be awkward for some people to talk about sex in a small group, we believe that it is necessary because the Bible thinks it is necessary.
We often speak of sexual temptation as if it is something new, something that is primarily for young people, or something that has fundamentally changed for the worse over time.
Certainly, there are some ways that sexual temptation can take different forms over time, but there has never been a generation of Christians who did not have to fight for sexual purity in life. We need to be careful that we ALL take heed to God’s plans to give us success in this area of sanctification.
4 Biblical Commands About Sexual Temptations
1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 gives us four commands that we must follow to pursue sanctification in the area of sexual purity.
- Run away from obvious sexual temptations
- Be led by a passion for God instead of sexual passions
- Stop creating division and discord/live for unity in the church
- Take God’s commands seriously in your life
(If you have a large enough group, it would be beneficial to break into Men and Women for this discussion)
- What is sanctification (v. 3)?
- Have you seen sexual temptations in the culture change over your lifetime?
- Does sexual temptation get easier as you get older?
- What are some practical steps to “run away from obvious temptation?”
- How does a relationship with God change the way that you view sexual desires (v.4-5)?
- What role does the church community play in helping us to remain sexually pure (v.6)?
- How have you seen the Holy Spirit work in your own life to create a passion for God that replaces lustful passions?
- What specific spiritual disciplines are most helpful in creating a passion for God that is necessary for sanctification in your own life?
In your gender-specific small group, pray for each others’ sanctification. Pray specifically for God to uphold each group member in the battle against sexual temptation.